By Kater Leatherman 

            Some would argue that it’s more important to ask questions than seek answers. Ask questions, they believe, and the answers will come. Besides, with questions, you can gain better insight, promote clarity, even cultivate a more open mind.

            So, here’s one to consider: “What are you done with?”

            It’s a good question, especially for those of a certain age. After all, haven’t we accumulated enough time, sweat and experience to know when we’ve had enough?  Whether it’s mental, physical or emotional, after a while we grow weary of carrying those “rocks” around our necks. 

            Being done with is about letting go of unnecessary burdens in order to lighten your load. Think of it as a way to edit your life so you can make room for more happiness, self-respect, and abundance.

            To fuel your creative juices, here are some examples of things you might want to be done with:


·      Robbing yourself of activities that bring you pleasure.

·      If you’re a woman, wearing mascara, nail polish or panty hose.

·      Trying to please everyone.

·      Beating up on yourself.

·      Coloring your hair.

·      Forcing instead of allowing things to happen.

·      Lying to people to make them feel better.

·      Going to happy hours or cocktail parties if you no longer enjoy them.

·      Spending time with people who are negative or boring.

·      Form-fitting clothes.

·      Taking care of others when they can take care of themselves.

·      Depriving yourself of not-so-healthy foods once in a while.

·      Wasting money buying clothes you will never wear.

·      A disorganized house.

·      Striving for perfection.

·      Checking your email every 15 minutes.

·      Keeping those Teflon pans you no longer use.


            In her weekly blog, former radio talk show host Ann Quasman has suggested making a list of all those things you are done with. A list sets the intention that there are things in your life that can really fall by the wayside and perhaps give you a new sense of freedom, a new door to open, a new place to explore or permission to be you. 

            “Pretty soon,” Quasman says, “the empty spaces will be filled with ‘want to’ stuff because it feeds your soul. Perhaps the journey in life is less about what you take with you and more about what you leave behind, what you’re finally done with.”

            So, go ahead … be done with anything that prevents you from feeling more joyful in your life, if only because you’ve earned it!


Kater is a professional organizer and home stager, yoga teacher and self-published author who inspires others to live better. Visit her website at www.katerleatherman.com or email [email protected]                     









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